A nagging [contentious] spouse is like
"Oh for pete's sake," I sighed. "Those sheets and blankets are never going to dry all bunched up like that."
My husband had just spent three days caring for our farm and our son on his own so that I could go to a funeral in another state. I had come home to a clean house, contented smiles from my son, and a congenial husband. My response? To criticize.
Shame on me.
To God's credit (not mine!), I didn't blurt it out. I thought about saying something about the state of our son's unmade bed, at 8:30pm, but decided to keep my mouth shut. They'd been fine without me for three days, and certainly didn't need me to step in now.
Do you struggle with just saying 'thank you', and then shutting up? One way you can single-handedly make your marriage suck is to criticize, nag and correct.
Did my son's bed look like I had made it, when it finally did get made? No. But WHO CARES? He slept fine, my husband slept fine and so did I.
I have heard so many wives and husbands complain that their spouse never offers to help them with chores or projects - and then go on to point out everything the spouse did/does wrong...
Do you want your marriage to NOT suck?
Shut up, and say 'thank you'.
"We want to live well, but our foremost efforts should be to help others live well."
(1 Corinthians 10:24b MSG)